Insights, Reflections, and Renewal for Couples
When is too much self-criticism a problem? Always. But there is an important difference between self-criticism and self-reflection. True self-reflection is always constructive, not reproachful. It seeks to understand tough truths in order to guide self-improvement. Self-criticism, on the other hand, seeks to justify a predetermined verdict: “I am unworthy.” Self-reflection seeks what is better. […]
A Checklist to Measure Love The Apostle Paul gave us a checklist for measuring love in a beautiful passage that is often read at weddings. It is worth reviewing whenever you face a relationship challenge. I suggest you read it, however, not with an eye to how your lover is failing you, but mostly with […]
Do you have trouble forgiving? Or do old hurts continue to rise up in your thoughts?
Forgiveness is essential to the quest for peace, contentment, and love . . . all of which are gravely disturbed by unresolved feelings of anger or bitterness.
If any of the above are true, do you feel the weight? Have you noticed how you are accumulating a constantly heavier load of emotional baggage? If old hurts are never truly forgiven, and new hurts keep getting added to the pile . . . it is no wonder that you are feeling worn down.
Would you like to be free of old hurts? To stop looking backward? To always have an empty bag of grudges and a fresh start before you with every new day?
You can.
It is both a scientific fact and a core teaching from many religious traditions that you can enjoy a happier and healthier life by learning how to practice unconditional forgiveness, and to even live in a state of perpetual forgiveness.
