Your spouse’s opinions may change over time, but seldom because you have lectured, pressed, insisted or demanded his or her conformity with your opinion. It is far more likely that your spouses opinion, or yours, will change simply by being aware of each others views and being open to allowing those views, and others one will witness as the years go by, percolate deep inside until that view begins to meld into one’s own opinions.
Acceptance of differences is what both wins hearts and eventually, at undetermined times and rates, can transform hearts and opinions.
Withholding acceptance, on the other hand, poisons intimacy.
In [amazon_link id=”0743265122″ target=”_blank” ]The Seven Levels of Intimacy[/amazon_link], Matthew Kelly writes:
The first truth of relationships is that all relationships have problems. They all have unresolvable problems. These unresolvable problems are usually the result of vastly different opinions on certain issues or varying expectations about the role each partner should play. All of these are the result of differences in upbringing, education, and experience.
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