Everyone knows marriages have ups and downs. This is not just month to month or year to year. In a larger sense, there is actually a very predictable pattern in every marriage. First comes idealization and passion. Everything is wonderful. Second, disillusionment. A realization that everything is not perfect. There are faults in your partner […]
Are You Really in Love? How to Measure (and Improve) Love
A Checklist to Measure Love The Apostle Paul gave us a checklist for measuring love in a beautiful passage that is often read at weddings. It is worth reviewing whenever you face a relationship challenge. I suggest you read it, however, not with an eye to how your lover is failing you, but mostly with […]
How and Why You Should Practice Perpetual Forgiveness
Do you have trouble forgiving? Or do old hurts continue to rise up in your thoughts?
Forgiveness is essential to the quest for peace, contentment, and love . . . all of which are gravely disturbed by unresolved feelings of anger or bitterness.
If any of the above are true, do you feel the weight? Have you noticed how you are accumulating a constantly heavier load of emotional baggage? If old hurts are never truly forgiven, and new hurts keep getting added to the pile . . . it is no wonder that you are feeling worn down.
Would you like to be free of old hurts? To stop looking backward? To always have an empty bag of grudges and a fresh start before you with every new day?
You can.
It is both a scientific fact and a core teaching from many religious traditions that you can enjoy a happier and healthier life by learning how to practice unconditional forgiveness, and to even live in a state of perpetual forgiveness.
Unconditional Love. What is Your Unilateral Promise to Your Spouse?
Marriage vows are intended to bind us to our spouse even and especially when we no longer feel like we want to be together, much less bound together. Marriage vows are a reminder that promise to love someone is an act of the will, a decision to bind one’s will to the process of trying as […]